Using Lucy and Ethel as a benchmark may not be the wisest act. Their friendship on the set is legend. We've all seen the disagreements in the various episodes, the out and out fights, and the emotional make ups.
Is this what having a girl friend is all about? A knock-down-dragout with a girl friend is foreign to me. (There was one friend about 20 years ago who got angry and did a lot of yelling, but that pretty successfully ended any friendship; I just couldn't trust her.)
I had 'squabbles' with girlfriends growing up, but we always settled our differences before it got ugly. And so I'm wondering if my concept of friendship is skewed. Having women friends is totally different from having men friends. After all, we're all from Venus, right? I think my hub and I are best friends and we argue, but that relationship just can't be compared to one between women. And so I ask...
Do friends argue? I would think so.
Does a friend always take your side when you've felt slighted? I say yes.
Does she always have your back even when she doesn't agree with you? Affirmative to this, too.
Does one always have to tell a friend the truth, even when it hurts (e.g. "you're gaining too much weight, that outfit is hideous, your husband/boyfriend is a moron, you're drinking too much, et cetera). Not so sure.
I realize that 'couching' is everything. One can gently pose a question about many things without being hurtful -- there's always subtlety -- although being subtle is a skill I've had to learn.
I'm just asking...
- I am a retired English teacher and department head, the mother of three, grand mother of three, and have been married to the same man for 42 years. I subscribe to Dr. PM Forni's concept of Civility. I was born in South Philadelphia and grew up in the 'burbs. I love soft pretzels and cheesesteaks, the Phillies, the Eagles, and San Diego. I love being Mom, Aunt Kathy, Nona Kathy, and Teacher. I spend a lot of time in my gardens in the spring and summer, and in the winter I plan what I'm going to plant. I also am an avid reader and photographer.