We spent the day on Eastern Shore -- specifically at Kent Narrows for a pre-anniversary lunch. Tomorrow, January 15th, we will be married 40 years. Truthfully, I cannot believe this. We talked a lot about why our marriage is so successful. Initially, we couldn't come up with any reason but blind luck.
But then we started discussing how friends of ours hated and were so very disappointed in a trip we absolutely loved, and we came up with this: Some people have very unrealistic expectations about, well, EVERYTHING. Aside from our both agreeing on some rather important basics like fidelity and respect, neither of us had ANY expectations. If you had asked me 40 years ago if we would be married forever, I would have had no idea. We wanted to be together and whereas I realized I could very well live without him; I didn't want to. It hasn't all been roses; there's been quite a bit of fertilizer, but if I had it to do over again, I would in a heartbeat.